Finding ways to liven up the holidays has been a challenge for everyone during the health crisis. Despite the year nearing its end, it is never too late to catch up on buying gifts and even trying something new and curious, like … anal sex.
Well, we’ve got your behind covered. In this article, we will guide you every step of the way to enjoy this uncharted backdoor adventure.
It is time. It’s time to take it from behind.
What is Anal Sex?
We can all admit that we enjoy that adrenaline rush brought by a quickie. However, bumsex requires preparation, especially for the receiving partner.
According to the American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology, the G-spot (commonly known as A- spot) of cisgender women and assigned females at birth refers to a zone of great sensitivity. This area is commonly accessed five to six inches into the vagina. However, this spot may be indirectly stimulated via anal sex.
With the technicalities out of the way, let’s get on to the good stuff.
Anal intercourse may sound like an alternative to vaginal sex to avoid conceiving, but this form of intercourse still requires protection to avoid sexually transmitted infections. Yes, you’ll want to use a condom here.
Plug: To guarantee safe sex, you need a trusted condom that’s non-toxic and vegan-friendly. We highly recommend using Sokkie Ultra Thin, our premium natural latex condoms.
Next, you will need lube. Lots of lube. Unlike the vagina that naturally lubricates, the bum needs additional help through lubrication.
Before anything else, anal sex operates on comfort first, then arousal. If you are at the receiving end, you need at least a few hours to a day to prepare.
Don’t skimp on your veggies! Eat lots of fiber as it will prepare you for the key part of this prep stage.
The first thing you need to get into is douching or cleaning out your bum. You can do this with a douche or a bidet. Make sure to use lukewarm water so as not to shock your insides with the temperature change.
To start, you can seat yourself on the toilet and aim the bidet to your hole and slowly squeeze the lever to let the water in. Once you feel “full”, halt and let the water sit for at least 30 seconds. After which, firmly flush the water with the force of your anus. Repeat this step until the water runs clear. Don’t forget that you can rest in between cleanses if it gets taxing.
Warning: it can be a bit messy at first, but you’ll soon get the hang of it.
Next, hop into a good warm shower to relax your body. After that much-needed rain down, revisit your anus and check if it’s now relaxed. Typically, post-douche, post-warm shower bumrings are much more relaxed.
Now, you’re ready for sexy time.
Foreplay is an essential part in making sure that your first time doing anal is as comfortable and enjoyable as possible. Be it with a lot of kissing and body contact or role play, raise your libido through foreplay. This needs no introduction, right? You know the drill. *wink*
Otherwise, check out this article on foreplay written by our favourite Aussie romance author, Rylee Winters.
Since this is a bum-centric encounter, the partner on the giving end needs to help the receiving half in getting their tush more familiar with another person’s touch. Incorporate this in your foreplay. As you continue to engage your behind, start massaging the outer ring of your anus.
Prepare for the next steps.
There’s no such thing as too much lube in anal sex.
Squirt a generous amount of lube on your fingers and continue your outer ring massage. The experience will be much more intimate if your partner does this for you. Very slowly, insert a finger covered in copious amounts of lubricant.
Once you’re familiar with the sensation of a finger up your ass, employ the “Clock Method” to further loosen your anus. Start with 12 o’clock, move your finger towards that direction, and hold for five seconds. Proceed clockwise and replicate the same to the 3, 6, and 9 corners. Repeat this for at least five cycles.
Loosening up is not a race. Take your time, take breaks, AND don’t forget to re-lube once you feel dryness inside your walls.
Before getting into the next phase, re-lube your hole, slide on a rubber onto your partner’s penis, and slather some lube (yes, again) this time all over their condommed shaft.
Sit On It
The most comfortable starting point is the classic "Cowgirl” as this position gives you that control.
With your partner on their back, straddle on their hips á la the sex position’s namesake. Aim their penis into your hole, take a deep breath, and very, very slowly slide the head in.
You will experience slight discomfort as this foreign object is much larger in girth compared to fingers. If you feel a slight sting, don’t pull out immediately. Instead, stay still for a few seconds and continue easing the penis deeper into you. The key is knowing when to take pauses.
Once you reach the base of their shaft, do not move around yet. Let your body adjust for a moment. If you feel like you’ve already become comfortable with the position, you may now start riding like the cowgirl that you are.
Basic to Advanced
It will take time before you’ll feel pleasure with anal sex. Just like in vaginal intercourse, exploring positions will determine which ones best indirectly stimulate your A-spot. For optimum pleasure, stimulate your front lawn while taking it up in your backyard.
As you search for the best technique, be also mindful that things can get a bit messy. It is normal. There’s no need to be ashamed if there are some mishaps along the way. Just clean up, wash off and start all over again.
Now ride on, cowgirl. Go take on the world!
Author: Lauren Taylor
My three favourite things are dick jokes and not using commas :)