As men, we get bombarded with premature ejaculation ads all day long - in our emails, Facebook, Instagram, billboards etc. etc. The porn videos that go for 1-2 hours don’t help either. Don’t worry, that was all done with many takes and most men don’t actually last that long! The median according to a 2005 study from the start of vaginal penetration (yes, so scientific) was 5.4 minutes.
That doesn’t mean there aren’t ways to prolong that, and it also doesn’t mean you can’t have a good time leading up to the climax. In fact, only 65% of women in heterosexual relationships experience an orgasm during sex.
Here are some tips and techniques we’ve put together to help you last longer in bed.
Do your kegels
Kegel exercises contract the pubococcygeal (PC) muscles of the pelvic floor over and over to strengthen them. They are commonly recommended by doctors for incontinence and women going through pregnancy. A less commonly known fact is that kegel exercises also help men last longer in bed. A 2005 study found that 75 percent of men improved erectile function after doing kegels.
So, what are these muscles and how do you do them kegels?
Next time you’re taking a wee, try cutting off your urine flow, let it go, cut it off, and let it go again. Same goes for when you’re trying to hold a fart in. That’s all your PC muscles at work.
Now that you know how to control that muscle, you’ll want to tighten and hold for 10 seconds, then release.
Repeat 3 times a day. Aim for at least 3 sets of 10 repetitions a day. You can pretty much do this anywhere, at anytime.
Doing these exercises helps ejaculatory control and lets you last longer in bed.
Edging is a very common technique to help with premature ejaculation. You basically bring yourself right to the edge of orgasm (hence, edging) and then stopping yourself at that very second just as you’re about to come. This helps to repress the ejaculatory response, and lets you be more in control of your ejaculation.
Sounds simple enough, but trust me, it’s a lot harder (pun absolutely intended) than it sounds especially when you’re ready to explode! It requires a lot, and I mean, a lot of self-control.
Similar to edging, as you’re about to come, stop, and squeeze, applying firm pressure on the area right below the head of your penis. Goes without saying that if you’re inside, pull out first.
This technique pushes blood out of the penis and like edging, it momentarily takes the edge off and decreases sexual tension. Once things cool down a little, you go again.
Penis rings, more affectionately known as cock rings, work by restricting blood flow from an erect penis resulting in a stronger erection. Your mileage may vary though as some people say cock rings tend to make things a bit more sensitive down there, whilst others say it makes it less sensitive. However, because the blood doesn’t flow back down quite as quickly, it actually does decrease the sensitivity of the penis after ejaculation which helps prolong things.
Word of caution though, because they do restrict blood flow to your member, it’s best not to wear them for more than 30 minutes, but for the purpose of this article, it’s probably not a problem.
Having an extra barrier will obviously help sensitivity, and the major condom manufacturers do make extra thick ones (ie. not the ultra-thin ones we stock) and ones with numbing agents in them (again, not Sokkies). The downside with that is you end up feeling less compared to going totally naked without protection. There are obvious downsides with not wearing protection either, but that's for another article.
If you’d like to give that a go, you can always pick up a pack of Sokkie Ultra Thins. Customers have mentioned they do feel more given they're ultra thin, and it doesn't affect their sensitivity too much, so it's a good balance.
Delay sprays and anaesthetic wipes
Delay sprays and anaesthetic wipes contain numbing agents that block the nerve signals that make you feel pain and pleasure, which in turn decreases your sensitivity, helping you last longer.
There are some downsides though - you don’t feel as much pleasure and it can decrease your partner’s sensitivity to pleasure as well, so be sure to check with them beforehand.
One sure-fire way to last longer is just to masturbate beforehand. It helps release a lot of that built-up sexual tension. And if you’re lucky, your partner might even help you with a quickie before the main course ;)
Just be aware of the refractory period though. Basically the recovery time between orgasms. This can vary for different people. Some are able to go again after a few minutes, whilst others can take hours. In general, an hour or two before show time should suffice.
Sex isn’t just about penetration
Just remember, sex is not just about penetration. For some, the foreplay and build-up is more enjoyable than actual intercourse itself. Either way, the more foreplay, the less direct stimulation on the penis, which leads to longer play time in the sack and at the same time, bigger, more enjoyable orgasms from all the build-up.
You can read more about foreplay and some hot tips to really get things going.
Author: James Mitchell
James is a writer for Sokkie. Loves footy and the telly. Can't afford to buy a house in Sydney because #avotoast.
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