How To Introduce Sex Toys To Your Partner

Feeling like you’re stuck in a sex routine, want to spice up your sex life, or just want to try something new? Try sex toys with your partner!

First times can sometimes be a bit daunting. If this is the first time you’re introducing sex toys with your partner, scroll down to read our tips.

Make Sure You Have Healthy Conversations Around Sex

When building a house, it is important to have a foundation. To introduce sex toys for the first time, having an open culture for sex talk in the relationship would be the foundation.

If your partner has established that he/she is not interested in using sex toys, you either might want to rule out using sex toys, wait until they’re ready to, or use an approach that acknowledges their take on sex toys.

Be Honest. Take It Slow.

If you feel awkward expressing this newfound desire to use sex toys, be honest with your partner and take the conversation slow. Make your voice heard even if you are nervous, and make sure you are showing real emotions.

If you’re the type that likes to plan and prepare for, you might want to rehearse possible scenarios in case the convincing takes longer than planned, or if the conversation goes south.

Whilst that might sound scary, don’t psych yourself out, keep calm and just be honest with your partner about your desire. Honesty is the best policy after all, especially when it comes to all things sex.

Research What Would Work Best For You And Your Partner

At this point, your partner is probably considering it. Great! But, have you thought of which toys to use?

Are you both comfortable with a flat toy that you can use for multiple positions? Or do you want to start with a penis ring that can make little to not much change in your sexual routine if you’re having a penis-vagina sex.

Make sure to come prepared (pun intended) when your partner decides to be onboard with your fantasies.

You could make the process a bit more fun by doing some online sex toy shopping together.

There are tons of cool independent Australian sex toy brands out there like Meet Rosie, Vush and Normal. However, if you prefer a big selection of toys from a single retailer, Lovehoney is always a favourite.

Not Using Sex Toys Is Not The End Of The World

While we are all about good things, we’re not ruling out a no from your partner/s. Remember that not using sex toys is not the end of the world.

Still want to spice up your sex life? You might want to read our previous blogs about anal sex, foreplay and edging, no toys required.

Be Mindful of Your Partner’s Feelings

Assure them that using sex toys in the bedroom doesn’t have anything to do with their performance. As for sharing your hopes to use toys, I suggest framing it as a request to try new stuff or to spice up your sexual experience, versus complaining that your sex life is boring and you and/or your partner needs a sex toy to perform better.

Talk About It After

It’s always a good idea to talk about the experience after given the both of you have introduced something new into your sex lives.

What did you both like about it, what didn’t you like? Were the both of you comfortable with the toy? Is there something else out there that the both of you would like to try that you think can amp things up further?

I hope that these tips come in handy! Indulge in a little play & imagination with sex toys, but as always, don’t forget to stay safe!

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Author: KB Resco
KB loves long walks on the beach, fried chicken and a bottle of ice-cold golden lager. You can easily spot him from a crowd by his shirt buttoned halfway. A real tropical guy.

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